I have been doing a lot of research lately about food, how to heal your body using it, and what the best options are. Wow! Everyone knows the answer AND every answer seems to conflict with each other. It is so confusing and often overwhelming! I feel as if I am standing in a valley surrounded by multiple high mountain peaks that each hold a different answer and I am supposed to climb to find the right one. It is hard to know where to start and which road to take. However, as I shared this with a friend this week her answer was simple…
𝗣𝗥𝗔𝗬
“𝑯𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒑𝒓𝒂𝒚𝒆𝒅 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒊𝒕? 𝑯𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒔𝒌𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝑳𝒐𝒓𝒅 𝒘𝒉𝒊𝒄𝒉 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝒕𝒂𝒄𝒌𝒍𝒆?”
Uhmmm, I would like to say, “Of course I have.” But honestly I pray about many things for my hubby, my children, my family, and friends. I pray I will have a right attitude, that I will be honoring, that God will give me a servant’s heart. I just didn’t think to ask him for direction in this area.
So now I will pray: 𝗝𝗲𝘀𝘂𝘀 𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗽 𝗺𝗲 𝗰𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗹𝘆 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗰𝗲𝗿𝗻 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗺𝗼𝘂𝗻𝘁𝗮𝗶𝗻𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗰𝗹𝗶𝗺𝗯. 𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗺𝘆 𝗳𝗼𝗰𝘂𝘀 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗹𝗮𝘆 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗼𝗯𝘁𝗮𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗶𝗻𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗺𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻. 𝗧𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗿𝗲𝗱𝗲𝗲𝗺 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴. 𝗧𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗿𝗲𝗳𝗼𝗰𝘂𝘀 𝗺𝗲 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗺𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗮𝗯𝗶𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗵𝗲 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗹. 𝗠𝘆 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗿𝘁’𝘀 𝗱𝗲𝘀𝗶𝗿𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝗺𝘆 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗽𝗼𝗶𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝗶𝗺 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗯𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗵𝗶𝗺 𝗴𝗹𝗼𝗿𝘆.
Did you know that living with grief affects your health, both physical and mental? your relationships? your emotions? Your energy level, concentration, and memory function? Were you aware that sometimes it causes paralyzing inactivity? Decision making skills fade and feelings of being overwhelmed by the many choices are huge. Things that are important sometimes fall by the wayside. Coping skills often collide with avoidance as the activities you want to do become the very things you want to avoid.
None of this affects my faith in Jesus, but it sure impacts my sanity from day to day. There are days that I can get it done with a feeling of accomplishment, but there are also days where it takes all I have to just complete the day. If you know a grieving parent very long, you know there are things in their life that just don’t add up completely. They don’t or can’t always follow through with what they committed to doing. Or maybe they do complete it, but then fall apart privately with only their family aware the toll it cost them.
Either way, please give them ample amounts of grace and compassion. They, like us, are walking through something that there is NO PREPRATION for. There are no classes on how to grieve well. No one can tell you how to lay a child down in death and avoid the pain that accompanies it. There is no timeline that says this will get easier by a certain date. There is no end to their sorrow although portions of it become softer as they become accustomed to the grief burden they now carry. There is only this club we now belong to—one we would have never desired to join.
𝚆𝚎 𝚊𝚛𝚎 𝚗𝚘𝚠 𝚖𝚎𝚖𝚋𝚎𝚛𝚜 𝚘𝚏 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚋𝚎𝚛𝚎𝚊𝚟𝚎𝚍 𝚙𝚊𝚛𝚎𝚗𝚝𝚜’ 𝚜𝚘𝚌𝚒𝚎𝚝𝚢.
I am amazed how many friends I have that are walking this same journey, in the same club with me, many for much longer and I didn’t even know. Grace upon grace…
Blessings sweet friends,
︵‿︵‿୨☆୧‿︵‿︵
☆｡･:*:･ﾟ★,｡･:*:･ﾟ☆ ｡･:*:･ﾟ★
I still believe in Millie’s Miracle
☆｡･:*:･ﾟ Hebrews 11:1 ｡･:*:･ﾟ☆
︵‿︵‿୨☆୧‿︵‿︵
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